Day 43 - Personal leadership


This past week my facebook posts have been on the topic of personal leadership.  I first started reflecting on the notion of leadership in my late twenties.  I believe I had been reading Principle-Centered Leadership by Stephen Covey.   It became clear to me at that time that leadership wasn't necessarily about a position or formal role one held, but was fundamentally a state of mind or philosophy of life.  It's recognizing that our actions, words and behaviours influence others.  It's about integrity.   Which means walking the talk.  If I believe love, peace and compassion are important values I should model those values.  It comes down to leading by example, no matter what your roles or position in life.  We often hold politicians or people in formal leadership roles accountable for their behaviour but we should know that our behaviour is no less important then theirs.  We all have a circle of influence, that is were our leadership lies.  I use this quote by Gandhi often when I write or give workshops because I find it so relevant, especially in relation to the concept of leadership "Be the change you want to see in the world."
Then, there is the type of leadership that holds us accountable for our experience on this planet.  It's the conviction that our life is a reflection of our own beliefs, our own thoughts and our own behaviours.  Yes, there are many things that "happen" to us that are out of our control, but personal leadership means clearly identifying the areas that are in our control and committing to taking responsibility for those areas.  We don't waste our time complaining about people and things that are none of our business because we are way to busy playing and creating within a strong and clear internal locus of control.
When we decide to exert leadership in our own lives we :

  • Take full responsibility for our emotions and do whatever we need to do to take care of ourselves.
  • Take full responsibility for our actions.
  • Become curious about all our experiences and use them as opportunities to learn about ourselves and grow.
  • Understand our limits, realize and recognize what is out of our control and then identify what is, in order to move forward.
  • Never play the victim and expect other people or outside circumstances to change in order to suit our needs. 
  • Set boundaries and clearly communicate our needs to others.  
  • Feel empowered to create the very best life for ourselves because we know we can!!!
Create an awesome day!
Joanne

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