Sunday, June 28, 2020

Not Achieving Your Goals? Stop Blaming Your Circumstances or Other People!


How did the title of this blog make you feel? Angy? Frustrated?

Annoyed? 

Or did you feel empowered?  


Congratulations if it was the latter. You are well on your way to success.

The truth is, not a single person, circumstance, event, or situation is responsible for YOU, not achieving your goals.


What is? What you think and believe about all of these things. Yup, it is as simple as that. And there are no exceptions. Nothing short of death can stop you from achieving your goals! Bold statement? Try living your life believing it and see what happens?


Successful people do not let outside circumstances or people dictate whether they get what they want or not. This fact has been shown over and over by rags to riches stories. In a quick google search, I found the following examples: J.K Rowling, Oprah Winfrey, Shania Twain, Howard Schultz (founder of Starbucks), and Ralph Lauren.  


Now you might be thinking: 


  • Right, these people got lucky. 
  • They were in the right place at the right time.  
  • Someone gave them a lucky break. 
  • The stars aligned for them.  
  • That won't happen to me.  


Any of the above individuals would probably agree that they did get a lucky break or two along the way. But they would also tell you that to get a lucky break you have to believe in them for yourself. And You have to create the circumstances for the universe to gift you with that lucky break. You create those circumstances by not letting any outside person or situation slow you down or stop you from working towards that goal or dream that is yours.


How do you not let any outside circumstance or person stop you? Well, it is not by changing them—change YOU. 


Please understand, I am by no means asking you to change who you are.

Please don't; You are fabulous!.  


Don't change YOU - Change what YOU believe!


If you believe you don't have enough time - Change that belief!

If you believe you don't have enough resources - Change that belief!

If you believe you are not strong enough - Change that belief!

If you believe you are not smart enough - Change that belief!

If you believe your spouse is getting in your way - Change that belief!

If you believe your parents are getting in your way - Change that belief!


If you change your limiting beliefs, nothing will stand in the way of you reaching your goals and dreams. This is not to say that there will not be obstacles and challenges along the way. But by creating the right mindset, you will give yourself the power to overcome these. 


How do you begin the process of changing your limiting beliefs?


Here are a few ideas to get you started.


  • Work with a coach. A well-trained coach can help you identify your limiting beliefs and offer strategies for changing them.
  • Learn about how your mind and brain work. Below is a list of resources to get you started. 


The Motivation ManifestoBrendon Burchard

Mindset-The New Psychology of SuccessCarol S. Dweck, Ph.D

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective PeopleStephen R. Covey

Excuses Begone!Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Working with Emotional IntelligenceDaniel Goleman

Change Your Questions-Change Your Life, Mariele Adams, Ph.D


I highly recommend any of these books. They have been very instrumental in allowing me to reach my own goals.


If you have any questions or would like more information on this subject, don't hesitate to reach out at


joanne@damselflytransformations.com.


Create an awesome day!

Joanne








1 comment:

  1. Some really great words to live by! I will definitely be looking into some of those books! Thank you :)

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